International Women’s Day is a time to reflect on issues that affect women. This year, APG is focusing on a topic that affects not only many women, but also an increasing number of men: the combination of work and parenthood. APG's Anke Cornelisse and Steve Goossens share their experiences of the challenges and the positive aspects of working while raising a young family. Their stories show how important flexibility, good communication and the right support are.
After the birth of a child, many things change, both in your personal and your professional life. Research shows that mothers often see their income and career opportunities stagnate, while fathers generally continue their careers uninterrupted. Anke is experiencing this herself now. As a portfolio manager and mother, she realizes how challenging it is to be pregnant, give birth, and then return to a demanding job. “You don’t want a pregnancy to get in the way of your career, so you try to show your problems as little as possible. But that only makes it harder.” Many mothers end up feeling pressure to work fewer hours, which unintentionally contributes to the income gap. Women also find that their maternity leave sometimes leads to a delay in their career. “I often hear that promotions take longer because you ‘produced less’ for a few months. While you have literally produced a new life,” says Anke.
Combination of work and caring
It is not only mothers who face these challenges. Steve Goossens, real estate portfolio manager, had a daughter in July 2024 and takes one day of parental leave every week. “I will never get that time back with my daughter, and I am glad that I can consciously experience this.” Yet that day off is not really free. “Friday is my dad day, but I still work during naps and in the evenings. Sometimes I have to arrange for a babysitter because of appointments. In practice, it comes down to a combination of working and caring. But personally, I really like that. One moment I’m singing songs in the pool, and a few minutes later I’m sitting at my laptop working on investment proposals.”
Steve initially had doubts about paternity leave. “I was the first in my team to take it, and nobody knew exactly how it would turn out. I still have the same ambitions and want to deliver the same output. Having your supervisor’s trust is crucial in this. If you were ambitious and worked hard before the arrival of your child, that does not change after the birth, of course.”
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